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I get sent many relationship questions, which I usually answer privately. But some of them deserve more than a private answer; they deserve their own blog post. Over the next few weeks, I'll be answering a few of those questions here. This is one of them, and it describes far more marriages than most people would guess. "When there's a fight, he gives me the silent treatment. This goes on for weeks. Then things just get back to normal. Talking about hard issues is a big chall

Let me paint a scene most of you won't need painted. There's been a wrong. Not a debatable one, a real one. He knows it, you know it, anyone watching would know it. And what you get instead of an apology is a mood shift. He's suddenly nicer. He makes you a plate of food. He fixes the thing you asked about three weeks ago. He cracks a joke to test whether you're still upset. He might even come close to the words and swerve at the last second: "Look, let's just move past it." "

This is the question nobody asks me in public. No one raises their hand and asks this during the question-and-answer session after a conference. They ask it in DMs at 1 am. They ask it in the parking lot after everyone else has left. They ask it with their eyes down, half-apologizing for even thinking about it: "When is it okay to stop? When have I done enough? When do I get to give up?" And I'll be honest with you, as a marriage coach and as a believer, this might be one of

Over the past few days, it seems I have been bitten by “the writing bug,” so I will keep writing. I know it must be the Holy Spirit because I have not been inspired to write in many months, and now it seems I just can't wait to write. I am trusting that these topics must be answers to some prayers, and I pray that the healing that is meant to flow will take place in every heart that reads and every hurting marriage in Jesus' name. Here's something I tell couples that surprise